"That spanking is so loud, and I fucking love it. Definitely down for that.”
These were the first words I heard as the music took a little breather in the vestibule between the dancefloor and the Experiences room. It’s as if the venue wants me to change my mindset from dance to dirty.
Let me back up. Without shamelessly marketing the Repentance brand I feel it deserves a writeup here as quite a few friends have asked me what to expect at their first event. Repentance is a Kink-themed Dance Club event in Cape Town. It is specifically NOT a sex club so don’t go there expecting Berlin KitKat vibes (more on KitKat later). This makes it the perfect place to explore the kink scene, get a club night out, and who knows, maybe get spanked, or tied up, or both.
The sound of a paddle hitting someone’s bum echoes in the room. Again. Again. Weaving through the crowd I see a woman sporting a swing that will put Mr. Coetzee from Maths grade 11 to shame. He has nothing on her. Another impact echoes throughout the room. The echoes stop and I see the person who was a moment ago giving the spank of the ages intimately holding the person she just spanked. Paddle still in hand. It’s actually beautiful, to be honest. What always stuns me is how people, especially women, are standing in queues to get spanked here. Spanked hard. You choose your intensity, but people always lean towards much, much harder than I have ever administered in the bedroom. Harder spanks, Longer queues. I should make a mental note of that.
Look, I’m not going to sugarcoat this for you, even though the event is specifically not a sex party but a dance party, the dancefloor is sexually charged and hot as fuck. What do you expect from a place with sexy people dressed up in their kinkiest outfits? Expect people grinding and making out on the dancefloor. But please for the love of all that is holy, do not be an asshole and impose on anyone. Be a decent human and you might be surprised at what you get yourself into. Consent is sexy as fuck.
Do not expect this event to be the place where you create some sexy content for your struggling influencer account. All phone cameras get covered as you enter the door and you better be dressed up or you won’t get in. Drop the sneakers, gym bro, this is not Dischem. Maybe throw on a leather harness over those muscles? Oh, you have a tattoo? Don’t cover it with a shitty hoodie. You will be stopped at the door. The dress code is always the thing I get asked about first when people ask about Repentance. Should I go buy an outfit? Probably yes. And make it good. Temu and Shein have got you. In a pinch for time? Grab some leather belts and rope at the local Builders Warehouse and get creative. You would be surprised at how kinky you can get with Builders Warehouse supplies and a pair of fishnet stockings. Yes, men, I’m talking to you. Get out of your comfort zone for once and you will be surprised how many compliments you get…
Lastly, do not go alone. Don’t get me wrong, it’s super safe and if you rock the solo scene don’t let me stop you. I have found that going in pairs or groups is just way more fun. So get your besties for a night out, get spanked and maybe even a little tied up. Yes, there’s Shibari too if you feel a little rope-risque for the evening. Live a little! I’m the last one to judge.